What do people say they want from sex? What do they really want?

Am I normal? Why focusing on "normal" sex undermines sex

What is sexual intelligence? Why does it matter?

Your brain: information and knowledge

Your heart: emotional skills

Your body: awareness and comfort

Letting go: obstacles to developing sexual intelligence

New focus, new approach: developing your sexual intelligence

Embracing the inevitable: health and aging challenges

Creating sex that can't fail (or succeed): using your sexual intelligence

Appendix 1: for couples therapists, psychologists, & physicians

Appendix 2: hand massage: an exercise